Let’s talk about toxic workplaces in the nonprofit sector. So many people I talk to have either experienced a toxic workplace, are experiencing one currently, or know someone who is. I know many people (myself included) who have left toxic jobs. And it is hard. People in these roles often care about the mission, they see how the organizations they work in are poised to do good work. Some endure negativity and judgment or feelings of guilt as they exit. But they do it because they deserve better. We all deserve better. We deserve to work in a place that treats us well. One that supports us in times of need, that builds us up rather than breaking us down, that cares about us as humans in addition to caring about the people we serve. The mission matters, but the people doing the work matter too.
But what if you can’t leave? What are the other options?
To be clear: leaving might still be the best option. But you can take some steps before getting to that place, especially if leaving is going to be a challenge financially. Only you will know what options are right for you.
If quitting right now is not an option for you, here are some options to consider:
Seek support: Whatever you do, don’t navigate a toxic work environment alone. This is where you start to question your own perception of things. “Is it me?” You need people to build you up when the people around you are breaking you down. Build a network of internal support with people you trust who are either sharing your experience or at least have first hand knowledge of it–and your context. Build a network of external support who can provide perspective about what’s “normal” and “expected” and what is not.
Be a change agent: If you haven’t done so yet, you might put some effort into trying to contribute to the betterment of the organization. Especially if there are a few of you who are interested in turning things around, this can end up being a win-win. You get to stay committed to the organization and make the place better for everyone.
Advocate for a role change: If your organization is big enough, it might be possible to alleviate some of the toxicity by changing roles – switching teams, reporting to a different manager, or even changing physical locations.
Plan your exit: Even if you can’t quit now, set a date and make a plan. One year from now? Two years from now? 6 months? If you need to get out and now is not the right time, ignoring it won’t make the right time magically appear. Figure out (with the help of your external supportive networks) what needs to happen to make it possible, and then get to work.
What am I missing? The answer can’t be “why don’t you just quit?” every time we hear about one of these situations. How do we support our friends and colleagues who are struggling with this?
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